Life Coaching and How it Can Help You in Recovery

Life coaching is a controversial topic when it comes to recovery.  Some people argue that a life coach is not a true professional, and is essentially acting like a “paid sponsor.”

These criticisms are unfounded based on what a life coach actually does for you.

The purpose of the life coach is not to give professional advice or even necessarily therapeutic counseling.  Instead, the life coach is there to unlock your creative potential from within and challenge you to rise to your full potential.

A life coach is not someone who walks you through detox.  In fact, the life coach isn’t really all that helpful for stage one recovery at all (when you are first getting clean and sober).  Instead, the life coach can really be beneficial to you when you are entering stage 2 recovery (when you are living holistic principles in long term recovery).

In essence, the life coach is most useful in helping you to make the transition into long term sobriety.  Their role is to push you to pursue personal growth on a number of different levels and to make genuine growth and progress in your recovery.

Life coaching is different from sponsorship in that sponsorship is basically restricted to spiritual growth, whereas life coaching takes a much broader approach in pushing for growth in a variety of areas.  In this way life coaching can be a very powerful tool for recovery.

A sponsor gets you sober, but a life coach keeps you sober.

Go here if you are interested in a free session with a reputable recovery life coach.  Keith is an excellent life coach and he specializes in addiction and recovery.

New Book – Recovering Me, Discovering Joy

I just found a unique author with a good recovery book that seems to mirror a lot of my ideas about recovery.  Vivian talks about recovery from a real-world, practical standpoint and also incorporates overcoming depression and anxiety into her recovery efforts, something that I think a lot of addicts and alcoholics struggle with.

Vivian also focuses on practicing gratitude as part of a positive attitude in recovery.  This is very much in line with my personal philosophy of recovery as well.  I think eventually the question becomes for anyone in recovery: “OK, now how am I going to live a sober life?”

Eventually we move beyond that first stage of recovery where we are shocked just to be off the drugs and the booze.  We have to branch out and start growing in new directions and find a new life in recovery.  I think this is where my philosophy probably overlaps with Vivian’s.  We both push for a holistic and spiritual approach to long term recovery.

Vivian also has a free report that you can download instantly that has some good information about recovery and how to help struggling alcoholics as well.  You can check that out along with her recovery book right here.

Strategies for Recovering Drug Addicts

Here is a good post here about recovering drug addicts and how they can use a small number of core strategies in order to guide them in their recovery.

These are long term strategies that make as much sense to use in early recovery as they do in long term sobriety.

The first idea is to focus on personal growth.  This includes a wide range of categories, such as our fitness, our emotional health, and our spirituality.

But the focus on personal growth differs from most recovery programs because it is a holistic approach, taking the whole person into account, including the physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual aspects.

Obviously, just this area alone (personal growth) can have a tremendous amount of detail for finding new ways to grow and develop.

The second area is in building a network of support.  Presumably, this would be comprised mostly of recovering addicts and alcoholics.  I’m convinced that there are some people out there who stay sober through this technique alone.  But combining a support network with the other two strategies is much more empowering.

The third strategy listed is to simply care for yourself.  The suggestion is to ask yourself, with each decision, “Is this really the healthiest choice for me?”  This is a simple but empowering strategy for recovering addicts who often times have a history of self-sabotage and destructive behaviors, many of which continue in a variety of ways even in recovery.

Take a look at these 3 strategies for recovering drug addicts and see if you can’t apply them to your life.

Helping Drug Addicts Overcome Addiction

Drug addicts overcome addiction through a process.

It starts back when they are still using drugs heavily, and their life is out of control.  The first hint of breaking through their denial starts tickling their brain.  Sometimes this takes decades of heavy abuse before someone reaches this point.

Eventually a moment of surrender is reached.  The addict throws in the towel and decides to give life another chance.  Now it is my belief that if this moment of surrender is real, that will basically be the end of their drinking and drugging.  In other words, the reason that people relapse with this disease is because they were not ready to quit drinking and drugging in the first place.

That’s why they call it “hitting bottom.”  It is a moment of finality; a complete and total surrender.  The addict is completely beaten.

Until they get to this point, you could never possibly list enough reasons to quit drinking, nor could you convince them that there is a wonderful life outside of drug addiction.  They simply won’t hear you, nor will they believe you.  That’s because they are trapped in denial….stuck on the hamster wheel, so to speak.  They can’t picture their life without drugs and alcohol.  Nor do they want to.  It’s just too scary.

How we can help people break through denial

Since I got clean and sober, I have been constantly seeking better information about how to help a drug addict.  I happen to work in a treatment center with a detox unit, and so I have definitely had a lot of practice at trying to help them, as I have helped to treat literally thousands of drug addicts over the past 4 years.  And let me tell you: it’s not easy.

One of the best ways to help an addict, believe it or not, is to <em>not</em> help them.  Or to be more specific, not enable them.  This means not helping them to get more drugs or alcohol or helping them avoid the natural consequences of their using.  In other words, you might have to let them fall on their face a bit in order to really “help” them.

Remember what the key is to overcoming addiction: that magical moment of surrender.  Without it, the addict is merely playing games…they might stay clean for a short while, but unless they have experienced utter devastation and truly surrendered with their whole being, they are not going to stay clean and sober.  So get out of their way and let them find their bottom, hard as that might be.  You might just be saving their life.

Also, be sure to check out this new recovering blogger on the scene, the recovery princess.  She is detailing her journey through sobriety; looks like good stuff.